About Me

I am a writer with a deep passion for Lancaster, travel, family, love, and life.  This website was created with help from Rew Designs to become a home for these passions.  It has morphed over the past 4 years from theboitsons.info to crazywidow.info and now to my new persona: Brenda Lee Free.  As life changed due to cancer and death, so did my explorations in life.  With time and growth came freedom, which has led me from traditionally writing about illness and grief, to the loves in my life that drive me.  Explore around and I hope you will find a freedom in coming home as I have.
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For information on Keepin’ it Kevin and Kevin & Brenda’s life together, visit the KIK website.

 
Am I going to make it?
January 15th, 2012 by

The world continues to spin even after death despite feeling like it has stopped.

Life moves forward even after death despite our want to go back in time or to never take one more step.

Last evening I went to dinner with 2 widows: one who is 3 years out like myself, and one who is 6 months out. Later in the evening we met up some friends of one of the widows. In that group there was a man who had lost his youngest son not long ago in a car accident when he was 25.

Mistakes
December 27th, 2011 by

ShareWhy do words affect me so?  They create drama in my brain that I can’t shut off.  I use other people’s words to torture myself.  If I make a mistake, and it’s pointed out, I go over it again and again and feel the shame of it everytime.  Shame of being imperfect.  It’s ridiculous. Whenever [...]

Grief & Social Media
December 18th, 2011 by

ShareBig thanks to Leigh of the York Daily Record for featuring me in an article about grief and social media.  Take the time to read and also view the video to learn more about the other family featured, the Dolins. Social media, a place to share life events, becomes a place to grieve as well [...]

Guest Post at Gray Hair and Acne
December 15th, 2011 by

ShareToday you can find a blog post from moi over at Gray Hair and Acne.   The Case Against “Couldn’t.  Stop over and weigh in on your “couldn’t”s.

What Would I Be if I Weren’t the Crazy Widow?
December 6th, 2011 by

ShareDefining yourself is not one easy task.  It is ongoing.  You evaluate all the things that bring you to this point in life.  You ask around about the characteristics that people believe define your existence. I don’t believe any one of us wants to be labeled as any one thing.  Widow.  Crazy.  The combo.  When [...]