Technology has completely re-created long distance dating, and made it a very common occurrence. Since online dating has become a trend, many people are looking outside their towns, states, and countries, for their soulmates. It has become a new trend for couples to fly cross country to be with one another, and at times, battle immigration in separate countries to make the ultimate commitment.
While I would never go so far as to say that long distance relationships are convenient, the tools we have available certainly make it easier to handle. Because of how far we have come with technology, couples no longer have to compromise on who lives where, who gives up their life, etcetera. Technology and travel has made it much easier to live separate, but committed lives as a couple.
Long distance relationships forever beg the question of their authenticity. When I first talked with my late husband online, we began speaking on the phone nightly, and sometimes even several times a day. We talked about everything imaginable and questioned each other on everything from religious beliefs to our favorite types of ice cream. I felt I really knew him when he arrived via plane to visit me in person two months later, and there was no question in my heart that I was in love.
Anyone who has not experienced an online or long distance relationship will often fail to understand the complexity and depth that is involved. Couples who have to work through the drudgery of long distance dating can know each other more intimately than those who live just down the road from each other. This is not always the case, but couples who have to fight against the odds to be together tend to have a deeper sense of appreciation for their significant other-whether friend or lover.
The transformation of long distance relationships in just the past 10 years has gone from taboo to common. I don’t even blink an eye when someone tells me they met their husband or wife online, or that they have friends they’re going to visit in California that they’ve never met before. Our society has thankfully become more accepting of the technology that has changed the face of relationships.
The evolution of long distance relationships is an amazing thing, and it has brought a lot of joy, as well as pain, to those who have experienced it. As with anything new, it is always good to be sensible and guarded in your online relationships. Technology has brought many advances, but unfortunately nothing can make up for common sense and a good sense of self.